Healthy v Unhealthy relationships

I have previously spoken about soul ties and different types of soul connections. Also, if they are negative or positive ties that can influence your life decisions and what kind of energies that can attach to your soul (check my previous posts). So today I continue to write on a healthy and an unhealthy relationship, which can come in all types of relationships. This does not only apply to romantic relationships; it applies to all! My friendships I assess them on the same scale as my romantic relationships. I actually treasure and hold my friendships on a higher pedestal than my romantic relationships. So, when you look at the diagram below also think about your friendships.

If you read my first few posts (which I hope you did) you would know of a relationship that I was in that I only saw late that it was an unhealthy relationship that truly did break my spirit because I was so dependent on this other soul’s presence, emotions and acknowledgement. I just danced to his guitar so I would not fuck up his emotional wellbeing and with that I forgot about mine.

So I have some pointers that I got from a general debate on a picture with some people about this topic:

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Allows for individuality

Brings out partners’ best qualities

Accepts endings

Experiences openness to change

Invites growth in the partner

Experiences intimacy

Finds pleasure in giving and receiving

Doesn’t try to change partner

Doesn’t try to control partner

Accepts limitations of self and partner

Has individual high self esteem

Communication

Security

Welcomes affection and closeness

Believes in equality

UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Feelings consumed in the relationship

Extremely afraid to let go

Excessive fear of risk or change

Little individual growth

Playing mind games

Trying to get something by giving

Trying to change people

Emotional dependency

Refusing to commit

Repeatedly experience of negative emotions

Cares with excessive detachment

Frequent playing of “power games”

Multiple break ups and make ups

Looking to others for self-worth

Being disrespected

I’ll leave this for you to think about… I know 9 out of the 14 points, I have experienced in terms of the unhealthy relationship I was in. (Hopefully if you are in an unhealthy relationship you can turn it around and make it a healthy one, or let this be an epiphany for you to get out.).

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